We May be Wrong, Sometime!

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Who doesn't think that he has done his best to make his own world a better place to live in? Who doesn't assume that he is always at the receiving end? Who's not convinced that its not him but someone else who's responsible for making his life miserable?

And who doesn't highlight that he is always right. and others are wrong? It happens with most of us, because we fail to recognize our own shortcomings.

Never Fall in Love with Addictive Depression!

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Falling in love with the negativity of life is perhaps one of the easiest form of addictive depression. It doesn't cost you a dime; it doesn't require a dedicated follow up; it doesn't require an extra effort. What it requires is an unconditional submission to the habit of always looking for negative sides of every development in life.

Detached Attachment!

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A deep sense of attachment to every relationship and the activities we carry out, is the root cause of our unhappiness. I'm taking about emotional attachment, which is different than emotional commitment.

When you erase the sense of attachment from your mind and soul, expectations from efforts remain zero. When you do your Karma with no expectation, positive results make you happy but negative outcomes never affect your mental equilibrium.

Smart-Work: How to be A Little More Happy!

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I don't know a single person who hasn't asked himself, at some point in time, about not getting enough return against his hard-work: Job, business or even in relationships, we feel that we are putting in our best effort to make it work, but the corresponding returns, in our opinion, are always much lower than our expectations.

Why it happens? Obviously, something goes wrong that we have no clue about. The mismatch between our effort and corresponding return is perhaps the main cause of unhappiness in every field of life. Can we do something to reduce the gap between the two? Yes we can, and by taking the following steps:

You're Born Extra-ordinary!

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“Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you.” – Douglas Adams

You're already an extra-ordinary person, because you're born extra-ordinary. But, unfortunately, you don't realize this fact and do nothing to take its advantage.

You can do wonders, but don't believe so; you're capable of making it big in life, however, you never believe in self; you are the reflection of your thought processes, but you never think that you're extra-ordinary.

Why You Must Live in the Moment

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The world is ruthless! It neither remember your past achievements, nor go by future predictions. For the world, you're, what you stand today. If your past achievements don't carry forward any tangible benefits, you're conveniently forgotten and ignored as intangible liability.

If you're a crest-fallen professional, you're completely forgotten as if you had never existed. If you're hugely successful today, the world don't remember what your past was. You're always assessed on the basis of your current standing in social hierarchy.

Likings Never Die!

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When you start liking someone, do you ever try to find out the reason behind: Why you like that person? No, you don't. Because, liking is the manifestation of a unique shade of your emotional existence and it doesn't follow a definite criteria.

Well, over a period of time, through mutual interactions, you may find that person to be quite different than what you initially thought about. Still, in all probability, you continue with your liking, because, frankly speaking, you don't know why you do so.

The degree of liking or emotional attachment that you develop with that person is mostly determined by your initial assessment of his/her personality and, in most of the cases, it doesn't undergo any major change even if things go wrong in course of time.

Come out of the Domain of Duality!

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All of us are living a dual life, full of contradictions, pretending to be virgin innocents in public and acting otherwise in private. We falsely show the world how committed we are towards maintaining the sanctity of human values, but....

Never Ignore Your Ground Level Connections

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Yesterday I received a call from a professional, whom I had successfully placed as CEO with one of our clients a couple of years ago. He said, due to some organizational conflicts, he had to resign from the current assignment and now he is desperately looking for a suitable opportunity.

"No issue, it's my job and I would try my best to identify a good opening for you."I said.

Commitment, Once Made, Must be Honored!

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"The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor." - Vince Lombardi

Changing stand has become as usual as changing clothes: a regular routine job.

Momentary compulsion for achieving better results, and ahead of others, destroys one of the most important basic human values: commitment!

Why You Must Occasionally Meet A few Negative Persons!

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Every time I meet him, for whatever reasons, he, after covering the meeting agenda, would eventually focus on highlighting some flaws in me that even I'm not aware of.

In fact, today, when I met him to discuss about a serious issue, he, far quicker than his earlier performances, came heavily down on me, saying that I would never be successful in life for the reasons.......

Social Intelliegence Skills And Knowledge Make You Lucky

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There is no scientific way to increase your chances of being lucky in life. However, I think, luck is mostly about sensing every opportunity that crosses your path and taking an appropriate action to en-cash it to the best of your advantage.

Simply working hard may not be sufficient but knowing, when and where to focus most.

Stop Selling Hopes!

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"Effective leaders are not born, they are built!"

Very few people dare disagree to this statement. But, having worked in corporate for a decade and half and running my own consulting firm for the same period -- which gave me the opportunity to meet and assess more than a few thousand professionals so far - I fail to agree.

I don't think you can make a lion out of a goat, even through imparting the best of behavioral trainings that you can ever think of designing and conducting for humans on earth. No way!

Can We Live Our True Self?

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Do we live our true self, or an image meticulously created to match a wide range of situations that we keep facing in daily life?

I think we're experts in creating a dynamic image of ourselves that keeps modifying according to the requirements  in different spheres of life but, most of the time, quite different than what we actually are.

Our external image controls the depth of relationship we have with people within our area of influence in terms of how caring and dependable we are.  We work hard to maintain this image, but how often we try to change our actual self, internally, to minimize the gap between external and internal self, is what my questions is?

Why We Do, What We Don't Intend to?

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Love unconditionally; don't run after money; be your true self; never hurt others' feeling... on various social media sites, people keep talking about the necessity of embracing these wisdom in real life. And, I too, do the same.

However, in real life, we refuse to love our wife unconditionally, always expecting them to reciprocate equally to our feelings and needs. When they don't, anger and frustrations win over caring and loving.

Every Human's Life is A Personal Website

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Life could be considered as the best personal website that keeps publishing a wide range of information pertaining to our existence. The source is none, but our own experience in every domain of life. Everything, that we go through, is digitized - according our own perception, though - and stored in amygdala.

But do we take advantage of such a huge and extremely beneficial knowledge source? Not really!

How Do I Overrule My Belief System?

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Sometime, for taking a step forward, we have to take a step backward. Difficult, no doubt, it is, because our belief system doesn't allow it happen intentionally.

However, if the situation demands, we must accept reality and rule over the commands from our belief system and go ahead with the decision.

Put Your Mobile on Silence Mode, Don't Just Disconnect Incoming Calls

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I was sitting with a senior person from corporate India and discussing an important issue. Suddenly his mobile phone started ringing. He picked it up to see who's calling and immediately disconnected it.

Nothing special about this incident as it keeps happening with most of us; however, looking at it differently, it could be a demotivating experience for the person who'd called up.

Because, disconnecting a call means you're actually rejecting the caller. You may assume that he would understand why you couldn't pick it up: busy in a meeting etc.

How to Find Out: Are You Accepted or Rejected?

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How important are you to the people in your area of influence is what governs your popularity index amongst them. And there are a few ways to judge whether someone likes you or not - the first step towards being important to him or otherwise - and the most result-oriented one in my opinion is to correctly analyze one's body language.

Recently one of my meetings with a senior professionals from corporate India went pretty well, and through-out the discussion I remained confident of cementing a business relationship with him -- until I analyzed the way he saw me off after the meeting was over: A casual and hurried good bye substantiated by a negative body expression.

Why You Must Worry, Sometime!

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Don't worry be happy, is the statement universally quoted by all of us to calm down worried friends or relatives. That's fine. But the question is, can we live without really getting worried about certain developments in our life.

No job, a serious illness or personality conflict with some close friend; Can we just remain happy without worrying for working out a solution? Not at all!

Does it mean, unless we worry about something greatly affecting our physical and emotional existence we can never achieve happiness? Yes I think, but to a limited extent!

We must worry for the right reason and convert its negative energy into positive for inspiring us to find out an amicable solution.We must worry, but for energizing us to initiate positive actions. Because, worry, I believe, is the right nutrients for keeping our survival instincts healthy.

However, many of us remain worried in every situation -- making it a habit. And that habit of worrying unnecessarily is what makes our life miserable.

These days life is not so simple that you can just stop worrying. So you must worry if there is a genuine reason, but use it to turn around the situation that's causing it.