Social Intelligence: Key to Success for HR Professionals

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He called up and desperately, requesting me to look for an immediate placement for him as he has already been serving the notice period. He is the same person whom I have been repeatedly calling up for past several months, but in vein. He never bothered to pick up my calls, neither called back. Simply put, he refused to maintain a decade old relationship while riding the success wave.

Another professional, who would always give me an appointment, but would refuse to meet at the last moment , not once but several times, demonstrates a weird behavior that needs detailed analysis to identify the root cause of such an irrational approach. Ideally, when you're not interested to meet someone, the best way is to let him know it outright instead of agreeing first and then aborting it at the last moment.

Never Stop Trying to be Extraordinary!

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What is extra-ordinary-ship?

Is it something beyond the reach of ordinary people?

Not really! Because, most of the extraordinary people are basically ordinary and at some point in time, they, willingly, and supported by the pull of destiny, zoom past ordinary-ship.

What inspires them to undertake this journey and complete it successfully?

The answer is: A dream of making it big in life! However, never forget that it's not just about dreaming big, but a lot of result-oriented actions that ultimately govern the outcome in terms of turning a dream into reality.

Choice is yours!

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If you're cornered today, it's your own making: A wrong decision, a wrong assumption, or no decision at all on a few important issues, that you had made several years ago.

You can still convert the consequences to your advantage, if you stop regretting over what's not changeable any more and focus on deriving the best out the worst possible situations.

If you can't, you deserve to be falling in love with fatal frustrations and failures that will eventually lead to a complete destruction of self and your near and dear ones who're dependent on you.

Choice is yours!

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Get Me Some Food!

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The other day, while doing some shopping, along with my family members, when a poor fellow asked me for some donation, I said, 'I wouldn't give you cash, what else you want?'

He looked at me and said, 'Sir, get me some food.'

I, then, took him to a near by Dhaba and bought a few rotis and sabji for him, and handed the same over.

He, with the packet in hand, started moving away quickly.

Perplexed, I asked him, 'why don't you eat your food here?' '

'My children first, Sir!' He replied and vanished, without waiting for my response.

Tears came to my eyes and I regretted not buying him another packet.

It cost me just 30 rupees, but, for him, it appeared to be another chance of seeing the smiling face of his hungry children.

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How Criticism Inspired Me Perform Better!

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More than 3 decades ago, I cleared my 12th board examination with 8 grace marks in English. Despite scoring pretty well in science subjects, which ultimately ensured my admission to an elite engineering college ( NIT, Nagpur), my overall grade in XIIth board was drastically down due this pathetic performance in English.

Frankly speaking, I had a great disliking for English during the formative years of life and never attempted to make any improvement even. I used to be so poor in spoken English, that, during my Engineering college days, I had always avoided mixing up with college-mates who were local Englishmen, I mean English speaking classmates.

Well, destiny had something else in mind for me. After passing out from the college, when I failed to write a job application in English, leading to a group of friends laughing at me in front of many others, I, for several hours, wept uncontrollably, but then, I decided to do something about it.

Don't Hide, Be Your True-Self

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Like or don't like: Success in professional life is always evaluated in terms of your compensation, if you are an employee; and the turn-over of the company that you own, if you are an entrepreneur.

"Hey Abhijit, that guy got a new job with this much salary, why don't you get me something like that," is the most common dialogue in any conversation that I normally have with senior levels professionals from Corporate India.

A Volcanic Eruption of Corporate Ego!!!

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First of all, let me thank those professional friends from Corporate India, who keep encouraging me to highlight some of the business issues pertaining to talent management.

I'm neither a seasoned writer nor a management expert, but my objective of writing these blogs is to share with my readers -- some of the issues, both in professional and personal domains of life, that truly deserve a brain-storming.

Yesterday, in the evening, while talking to the VP-HR of a multinational company, which has recently undergone a global restructuring, when I, unaware of the final structure, casually made a remark about his reporting matrix, he got extremely annoyed and told me to avoid making such statements without knowing the facts.

Inspirational Lie!

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If there is a will, there is a way: A plain lie, it is, highly inspirational though. Accept or not, but at some point of time in your own life -- you too must have realized it.

I agree, inspirational quotes, particularly the above one, surely boost our moral to work hard toward achieving certain goals and objectives, but, we must also realize, that the net result is invariably influenced by a few other factors; most of them, beyond our control.

Detached Attachment!

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A deep sense of attachment to every relationship and the activities we carry out, is the root cause of our unhappiness. I'm taking about emotional attachment, which is different than emotional commitment.

When you erase the sense of attachment from your mind and soul, expectations from efforts remain zero. When you do your Karma with no expectation, positive results make you happy but negative outcomes never affect your mental equilibrium.

Counter Loneliness!

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Who isn't lonely, many may deny the fact though; who isn't lonely, even if surrounded by a hundred also?

In fact, we are lonely, as long as we deny the fact and do nothing about it.

The fact, however, is, that, we can come out of this loneliness when we start thinking about and acting on making others feel otherwise.

Fighting Spirit

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Who doesn't struggle in life, but how successfully one endures destiny's torture up until making it happen is what truly reflects the fighting spirit.

Success is all about enduring the worst period of life, without changing your course. The deciding factor between success and failure is self confidence.

Is Your Organization System Driven? If not, Quit Immediately

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The purpose of a system is to design the rules of the game, so as to ensure that the show must go on in accordance with a specific set of activities defined for a particular role in any organization.

In nutshell, it means, even if someone is on leave the work doesn't suffer, as the other person who takes over his place is guided by a well-defined set of procedures regarding all the activities pertaining to that role.

Destiny's Torture: Celebration Time!

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"Hi Abhijit," a beaming Sandip came on line when I picked up my mobile, and he continued:

After five months of dry spell, today I received a payment. How I survived during this period with no income is another story that I'd love to share with you some other time, but today is celebration time.

I have been working smart for last few months and the result is clealry visible: Confirmed business for next three months, including the current one, is close to what I did for the whole of last year.

Freedom of Expression on Social Media, But Legitimate!

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I think the time has come to add the word 'Legitimate' before 'Freedom of Expression' as being one of the fundamental rights according to the constitution of our country. For that matter, why only India -- it must apply to every democratically run nation.

Social media has empowered every individual on planet earth to express his/her thoughts, ideas and take on every issues with no restrictions as to what is constructive, beneficial to the society and ' LEGITIMATE' Vs what is destructive, harmful to the society and ILLEGITIMATE.

How to 'Stand Out' in the Crowd of Relationship Network!

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Instinctively, all species, including humans, longe for getting noticed by others through a better performance in the specific areas of interest.

Call it achievement or success, the fights are always on to move ahead of others up the ladder of social hierarchy in terms of recognition by the masses and subsequent acceptance as better than the rest.

The Dark (K)Night Rises! Where is the Batman?

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I am neither a writer nor a political observer, but what I have been watching for more than a year really sadden me beyond my capacity to recover completely.

The sudden demise of a great mass movement against corruption, in view of personal ambitions taking over the selfless desire to fight for a genuine cause, is perhaps one of most unfortunate incidents that I have observed in my life so far.

Power of Relationship: How My Dad Achieved the Impossible

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It was truly an amazing incident that happened more than 2 decades ago: My Father, who was terminally ill with no chance of survival, recovered completely.

How it happened was perhaps more amazing: On the advice of her religious Guru, my Mother decided to give up on her most favorite fruit forever.

Never Be Indecisive in Any Situation

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Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant. # Tony Robbins

Reading Donald Trump's 'Think Big' would give you a clear idea about how ruthless is the world you live in, and what you should do to cultivate a mix of situation-specific ruthlessness and humility in decision-making for living an accomplished life.

Through-out your life, you must read the situations correctly and decide your stand eitherway: Ruthless or humble. Right approach would work it out in your favor and the wrong one would spoil it.

How to Land Your Dream Job: Befriend the Best Recruiters!

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Quite often the job seekers ask me about successfully creating a job information network.

They are keen to develop some professional relationships that would keep them informed about the availability of latest relevant opportunities in the market much ahead of others.

Flush out the Germs of Insensitivity from Your Life Ecosystem!

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There must be at least one decisive reason: Why everyone doesn't become successful; why everyone doesn't become rich and famous; why everyone doesn't become popular.

So, what's that reason? Well, I think, it's lack of sensitivity in relationship management!

Wait for the Arrival of A Life Changing Dawn of Success!

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When nothing goes right in your life, you'd notice unbelievable things happening: Dense black clouds of continuous failure, that you could never even dream of experiencing, would surround you from all direction, forcing you surrender to your helplessness and finally give up.

With every passing day, the clouds of failure will become more and more dense and menacingly black, reducing your visibility and mobility to zero. Most of us succumb to destiny's brutal torture at this point of time, but you shouldn't.

Think Big, and Work Hard to Achieve It

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Not all saints are recognized by the world as achievers. It's a different issue that most of them are not actually running for it.

However, common people like you and me, who're yet to achieve the sainthood, do work hard to filter through the mesh of obstacles that holds the failures back from bursting into the realm of success. We want to make it big, really big, in life.

Destiny's Torture: The Lost World of Happiness!

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Having gone through an amazingly successful period of life for little less than a decade, and then embracing an equally devastating period of failure for more than 3 years by now, I think, that, I have realized what can make humans happy in life.

I'm a common man with an average intelligence level, hence, I may be wrong while saying: Happiness is derived out of a feeling of nothingness, when you have no assets or liabilities to manage but your own spiritual self!

Master the Art of Recognition!

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While talking to their sons over telephone, they would never fail to get all family members on line and inquire about their well-being. That would include, one of their grandchildren who was just 3 years old at that time.

Well, I'm highlighting an astonishing attitude of an elderly couple whom I had observed a few times -- talking to their near and dear ones.

The Power of 'Failing to Fail'

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I'm sure, more often than not, you find yourself in a situation when all your sincere efforts to accomplish a goal produce no results. Frustrated, you wonder, what the hell is wrong with you and your mission and, ultimately, feel like giving up.

Yes, giving up is the easiest way to come back within your comfort zone, blaming destiny for aborting your life mission. All of us have gone through similar situations in life, and we know how difficult it is - not to give up.

But never forget, success is not only about performing against all odds but sustaining the mission when luck is deadly against you. If you can survive the worst time, in terms of sticking to your objective, sooner or later the situation will turn in favor and then you must go all out to make it happen.