How important are you to the people in your area of influence is what governs your popularity index amongst them. And there are a few ways to judge whether someone likes you or not - the first step towards being important to him or otherwise - and the most result-oriented one in my opinion is to correctly analyze one's body language.
Recently one of my meetings with a senior professionals from corporate India went pretty well, and through-out the discussion I remained confident of cementing a business relationship with him -- until I analyzed the way he saw me off after the meeting was over: A casual and hurried good bye substantiated by a negative body expression.
A camouflaged sense of rejection was clearly flowing out through his body language, without he realizing it. And I, despite being assured of a long term association, had to wait for a few months to correlate his stunning silence - to several follow-up calls - with my assessment of that situation.
Such assessment sounds difficult but possible, if we can develop the ability to observe and analyze others' behavior neutrally without getting influenced by our perception first. Clever people may successfully avoid a visible demonstration of negative feelings if any, but with a watchful eye you can certainly identify the traces which are bound to come out in negligible proportion.
So after attending an important discussion you may try to correlate your body language observation with the final outcome later, to ascertain if you have been liked or not. I'm sure, you'd find a definite correlation. Because, I have successfully validated it over a dozen subsequent meetings.
Remember, achieving the status of 'being important' is the first step towards striking a meaningful association with people who matter to you -- both in business and personal life.
Recently one of my meetings with a senior professionals from corporate India went pretty well, and through-out the discussion I remained confident of cementing a business relationship with him -- until I analyzed the way he saw me off after the meeting was over: A casual and hurried good bye substantiated by a negative body expression.
A camouflaged sense of rejection was clearly flowing out through his body language, without he realizing it. And I, despite being assured of a long term association, had to wait for a few months to correlate his stunning silence - to several follow-up calls - with my assessment of that situation.
Such assessment sounds difficult but possible, if we can develop the ability to observe and analyze others' behavior neutrally without getting influenced by our perception first. Clever people may successfully avoid a visible demonstration of negative feelings if any, but with a watchful eye you can certainly identify the traces which are bound to come out in negligible proportion.
So after attending an important discussion you may try to correlate your body language observation with the final outcome later, to ascertain if you have been liked or not. I'm sure, you'd find a definite correlation. Because, I have successfully validated it over a dozen subsequent meetings.
Remember, achieving the status of 'being important' is the first step towards striking a meaningful association with people who matter to you -- both in business and personal life.
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