Nothing is more dangerous, in life, than a haunting image of self that you lived decades ago: Good, or bad!
Believe me, even a successful past could also be equally haunting if your current state of affairs is not so comparable.
Let me tell you, why I think so:
Someone known to me, who had an impressive past but now riddled with an equally insignificant present, could never come out of an influencing shadow of his past.
To make it worse, while meeting his low profile contemporaries - but now hugely successful - he'd unknowingly enter into a combat mode to prove that he is still superior to them.
On the other hand, those low profile friends, depending upon their maturity level, would either ignore such advances with a pinch of salt or completely cut themselves off that person -- terminating decades old relationships.
So, if you are a past battered personality like the one I described above, then the best way to maintain your relationship with old pals is to understand the following facts:
1. Humans are always looking for importance: While remembering your golden days during a reunion meeting with old friends, even if you indirectly emphasize on your achievements but never forget to highlight some of the good jobs done by your friends too.
2. Success has no time frame: You must realize and accept a simple fact that, success, in whatever form it may appear in your life, is neither permanent nor your exclusive rights. If you were the best in the lot then, may be someone else now-- that you must graciously accept!
3. Stop living in the past. Past is the foundation of future but, Someone, who refuges to accept his present by clinging to an ego-boosting past, would stop growing, ultimately getting entangled into the web of self-destruction.
So, next time you meet some of your old friends, never surrender to a haunting past and behave like a fool -- rather be your true-self and treat them equally, because 'a small issue can negatively affect relationships.'
Believe me, even a successful past could also be equally haunting if your current state of affairs is not so comparable.
Let me tell you, why I think so:
Someone known to me, who had an impressive past but now riddled with an equally insignificant present, could never come out of an influencing shadow of his past.
To make it worse, while meeting his low profile contemporaries - but now hugely successful - he'd unknowingly enter into a combat mode to prove that he is still superior to them.
On the other hand, those low profile friends, depending upon their maturity level, would either ignore such advances with a pinch of salt or completely cut themselves off that person -- terminating decades old relationships.
So, if you are a past battered personality like the one I described above, then the best way to maintain your relationship with old pals is to understand the following facts:
1. Humans are always looking for importance: While remembering your golden days during a reunion meeting with old friends, even if you indirectly emphasize on your achievements but never forget to highlight some of the good jobs done by your friends too.
2. Success has no time frame: You must realize and accept a simple fact that, success, in whatever form it may appear in your life, is neither permanent nor your exclusive rights. If you were the best in the lot then, may be someone else now-- that you must graciously accept!
3. Stop living in the past. Past is the foundation of future but, Someone, who refuges to accept his present by clinging to an ego-boosting past, would stop growing, ultimately getting entangled into the web of self-destruction.
So, next time you meet some of your old friends, never surrender to a haunting past and behave like a fool -- rather be your true-self and treat them equally, because 'a small issue can negatively affect relationships.'
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