This is perhaps one of the most difficult decisions that many couples fail to arrive at: Is their marriage worth saving.
Yes, positivity is important for leading a normal life; so are constructive decisions, but no association can work without sincere commitments from the involved parties.
Recently, I read an interesting article on this issue, which says: "Life is too short to waste it in torment, in abuse, and in lost love. Save yourself."
However, I don't completely agree with this concept of blindly saving ourselves from dysfunctional marriage, because, for me, the scope of marriage extends much beyond just two lives.
Remember, a 'couple' is not an isolated entity in this world but closely integrated with many in their circle of attachment.
First and foremost is their children; those innocent souls, who're the first to fall victim to an unsuccessful marriage for no faults of theirs. Then comes Parents, who, at an old age, are burdened with the failure of their children.
I mean, ending a relationship, although appears to be a realistic approach and perhaps not a very difficult task, but actually not.
So, what's the solution? How to set things right?
Well, if you're a victim of mental and physical abuse I wouldn't suggest that you keep going through the torments but, before finally calling it day, some of the corrective actions that you may try are:
1. Take help from a close relative for taking your partner to a psychiatrist. I'm sure, unless a hopeless case, there would be an implementable solution.
2. Follow your own behavior to identify a few areas of improvements - I'm sure, there will be some - and correct them to the best of your capacity.
3. Tame your ego down while dealing with your partner. I know it's difficult, but a little help from spiritual input would certainly prove useful
What I wish to say is:
If at all you're in love, may be a decade ago, leave no stone unturned to help it re-surface!
And if, the flame of passion in your relationship has permanently extinguished, then also, don't give up on not making it an event of past -- at least, for the sake of your Children.
Never forget:
Our ancestors started wearing clothes, not for any other reasons but to save themselves from extreme heat and cold, because, during the course of evolution homo-sapiens started losing their protective cover of body hairs.
Similarly, for successfully handling a demanding situation, you have an inbuilt capacity to change your emotional outfit. Try to strengthen it for absorbing more pains of life. I'm sure, you wouldn't regret it in the long run.
Yes, positivity is important for leading a normal life; so are constructive decisions, but no association can work without sincere commitments from the involved parties.
Recently, I read an interesting article on this issue, which says: "Life is too short to waste it in torment, in abuse, and in lost love. Save yourself."
However, I don't completely agree with this concept of blindly saving ourselves from dysfunctional marriage, because, for me, the scope of marriage extends much beyond just two lives.
Remember, a 'couple' is not an isolated entity in this world but closely integrated with many in their circle of attachment.
First and foremost is their children; those innocent souls, who're the first to fall victim to an unsuccessful marriage for no faults of theirs. Then comes Parents, who, at an old age, are burdened with the failure of their children.
I mean, ending a relationship, although appears to be a realistic approach and perhaps not a very difficult task, but actually not.
So, what's the solution? How to set things right?
Well, if you're a victim of mental and physical abuse I wouldn't suggest that you keep going through the torments but, before finally calling it day, some of the corrective actions that you may try are:
1. Take help from a close relative for taking your partner to a psychiatrist. I'm sure, unless a hopeless case, there would be an implementable solution.
2. Follow your own behavior to identify a few areas of improvements - I'm sure, there will be some - and correct them to the best of your capacity.
3. Tame your ego down while dealing with your partner. I know it's difficult, but a little help from spiritual input would certainly prove useful
What I wish to say is:
If at all you're in love, may be a decade ago, leave no stone unturned to help it re-surface!
And if, the flame of passion in your relationship has permanently extinguished, then also, don't give up on not making it an event of past -- at least, for the sake of your Children.
Never forget:
Our ancestors started wearing clothes, not for any other reasons but to save themselves from extreme heat and cold, because, during the course of evolution homo-sapiens started losing their protective cover of body hairs.
Similarly, for successfully handling a demanding situation, you have an inbuilt capacity to change your emotional outfit. Try to strengthen it for absorbing more pains of life. I'm sure, you wouldn't regret it in the long run.
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